Most of the time we kid ourselves with a system of delusions and denial. We say we are one kind of person, while doing things that are contrary to our desired image.
Psychologists call it “cognitive dissonance,” a state of discomfort when we say one thing but do another. We will go to any lengths to avoid that feeling, hence we construct an elaborate system of delusions, denial, and some behaviors we don’t even notice.
To face the fact that we aren’t acting like the person we believe we should be is painful and unpleasant. We don’t have time for that. Negative emotions get in the way of our being productive and focusing on the tasks and goals at hand.
1. Be Realistic.
2. Plan Ahead. New Year’s Eve probably isn’t the best time to start planning for your next year.
3. Outline Your Plan.
4. Make a Pros and Cons List.
5. Talk About It.
Gloria-Jean Brown / [email protected]